Navigating the Next Steps in Healing from Unhealthy Relationships
The Lemon Drop: Building Trust After Healing - Embracing New Relationships
Have you ever considered that the journey itself holds more significance than the destination when it comes to achieving big goals?
In this Lemon Drop, we explore the often-overlooked part of this journey: the fear of losing yourself again and how to overcome it & discuss the complexities of entering new relationships after establishing a strong bond with yourself.
The Slice: Facing New Challenges After Healing
This is the part of healing from unhealthy relationships we don’t talk about as much. We celebrate the strength, confidence and independence for building yourself back up but we stop there. We don't dive into the new challenges of building a new relationship once you’ve had to rebuild the one with yourself. This is true in any relationship but I’ve now fully experienced the hardships of both in intimate ones.
The troubles I once faced in previous unhealthy relationships such as lack of boundaries, disrespect, mistrust and poor communication were replaced with massive walls, self-sabotage, hyper-independence and indecisiveness. All of which were damaging to trying to form a new relationship. It took two things for me to overcome these newfound challenges. One, I had to lean into the confidence and trust I created in myself to know I would never compromise myself in a relationship again. And two, I had to find an extremely, emotionally intelligent and patient man that wanted to grow with me - one I was never ready for until I first trusted myself. It took time and it was a process but it is now worth it.
The Squeeze: Overcoming Fear and Building Trust
In the aftermath of unhealthy relationships, creating new connections can feel daunting. Let's explore how to confront the fear of losing yourself and the importance of trusting the work you've done. From recognizing the guards you've put up to understanding how to let them down, each step is crucial in forming healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Practical Pointers: Strategies for Building New Relationships
Acknowledge Your Fears: Recognize the fear of losing yourself and understand it's a natural part of the process but do not let it hinder you.
Trust Your Growth: Have confidence in the work you've done to heal and the strength of your relationship with yourself.
Communicate Openly: Be honest with potential partners about your journey and the challenges you face.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Ensure your needs and well-being remain a priority in any new relationship.
Take It Slow: Allow yourself time to adjust and grow comfortable in the new relationship without rushing.
The Sip: Embrace New Relationships with Confidence
Breaking free from the fear of losing yourself, embracing new relationships becomes a journey of growth and trust. Each step taken with awareness and confidence strengthens both your bond with yourself and your ability to connect with others. Embrace the challenges, trust the work you've done, and let them guide you toward fulfilling and healthy relationships in the future.
Until Next Week,
Kayla M Logue
P.S. I want to hear from you! Email me questions, thoughts or topics you would love to read about at kayla@kaylalogue.com.