A Non-Negotiable, MUST Have…Boundaries.
The Lemon Drop: Establishing Boundaries Internally that Become External
Feeling like you're constantly being taken advantage of? It's time for a change.
In this Lemon Drop, discover the power of defining your limits and how it can reshape your life. I will also provide practical tips on how to set healthy boundaries that work for you and your unique situation.
The Slice: My Personal Shift There was a time when setting boundaries seemed like an unreachable feat for me and it was. I said yes to everything even when I wanted to say no. The “people pleaser” in me controlled my narrative and actions. It left me drained and unfilled. I realized that my boundaries were weak or non existent in all areas of my life. This held me back until I committed to truly establish and hold myself to them. It was a challenge for me…a massive one in fact, but it was gamechanger. By asserting my limits, I gained control and built stronger, more authentic connections.
The Squeeze: The Dynamics of Boundaries Boundaries aren't walls; they're bridges to self-care. They signify respect for your own needs and guide interactions with others. It's about defining what is acceptable and what isn't in your life. Internally, it means recognizing your own limits and needs, and externally, it means communicating those limits to others. Boundaries provide the structure for healthier interactions, leading to improved mental and emotional well-being.
Practical Pointers: Crafting Your Boundaries
Soul Search: Reflect on your values and limits. What resonates with you? What feels uncomfortable?
Define Your Territory: Identify where boundaries are needed – whether in your relationships, work, or personal space.
Express with Grace: Practice assertive communication to state your boundaries confidently and compassionately. Sometimes the communication is nonverbal. It is simply through your actions.
Consistency Counts: Uphold your boundaries. As you demonstrate their importance, others will respect them.
Fluidity Matters: Allow for flexibility. Boundaries may adapt as life evolves.
The Sip: Set Your Boundaries…One Step at a Time Ready to take on your boundary-setting journey? Start by identifying the aspect of your life where boundaries need reinforcement. Consider what changes you'd like to make and envision your ideal boundary. Put pen to paper if it helps solidify your intent. Lastly, communicate your boundary respectfully and assertively. Recognize whether it involves an actual conversation or you changing your actions. Remember, it's a process – be patient with yourself and those around you. You are truly worth it.
Until Next Week,
Kayla M Logue
P.S. I want to hear from you! Email me questions, thoughts or topics you would love to read about at kayla@kaylalogue.com.